Set Goals... And Smash Them

Do you ever feel like you’re kinda just “surviving” and not really “living”? Do you feel like you’re just going through the motions of life and next minute it’s half way through the year again and you feel like your whole existence is just sub-par?

You are not alone my friend.

It’s so easy to get caught up in the monotony of adult life that you forget to even have actual goals, you begin to feel like you’re losing the essence of what is truly you and that you are just another cog in a machine.

For me personally, this does a number on my mental health. I find as we get into the colder months – depression consumes a lot of us. The weather is gloomy and so are our attitudes, its cold and yucky and we don’t want to get out of bed.

So, to try and combat the snowball of sadness that is usually my winter, I decided to try a different approach. Charity work! It’s great to have personal goals, but I found I got to the point that even ticking those off wasn’t doing it for me. I felt like I needed more purpose. There is so much wrong in the world right now and we live in such a depressing time.

I find I get overwhelmed because there are SO many issues that need to be resolved! I feel an anxiety attack coming on just thinking about it!

In an effort to try and change my life for the better, whilst spreading a butterfly effect of love and compassion in my trails; I decided to start off small. Hence the “1000 project” was born. I set myself a goal to raise $1000 for charity in one month and this blog post is all about how that turned out for me!

The first charity I chose to raise money for is Act for Peace. I am a huge supporter of the work Act for Peace do, I didn’t decide on this charity only to raise funds and awareness for refugees, but because I knew participating in their Ration Challenge it would really force me to grow within myself. And I’m ALL about that personal growth – we are ever-evolving!


Part of this fundraising has required me to undertake the Ration Challenge between June 17-24. This challenge requires me to survive solely on the same rations a Syrian Refugee is given for seven days in a refugee camp in Jordan. Let me tell you now – IT IS NOT MUCH FOOD! As a self-confessed food enthusiast who suffers from extreme “hangryness” this will be harder for me than any other physical challenge I could undertake.

 My box of rations I'll survive on from June 17-24.

My box of rations I'll survive on from June 17-24.

 The contents of my ration pack - NOT MUCH!

The contents of my ration pack - NOT MUCH!

Well why the heck would you do it then?!


I won’t lie, I am one of those pathetic people who chuck a tantrum when I’m hungry. Yet I never wonder where my next meal will come from because I am lucky enough to have the privilege of a quality of life that allows me regular meals and good nutrition. It is all too easy for us to forget that there are humans in the world who do not have this privilege, especially when it’s overseas and not right in front of our faces. It is 2018 and we STILL have people starving to death in the world! We have so much technology, so many resources, so much money – yet so many are unwilling to help others! Why?!


Imagine living a beautiful, peaceful and safe life that you and your family have worked so hard for, just to have it destroyed at the hands of your government, forcing you to flee everything you’ve ever known to avoid persecution. This IS the reality for Syrian refugees. The people in Syria have been caught up in almost seven years of bitter internal conflict in their country. During that time, hundreds of people – just like you and I, have been slaughtered. Towns and cities have been reduced to rubble and over 5.4 million Syrians have been forced to flee for safety.


Right now, there are more refugees displaced around the world than any time since World War II!

Yes! You read that right – more than EVER since WWII! It is a humanitarian crisis on an unprecedented scale – and people are ignoring it!


I am doing my best to raise awareness for this cause because despite what our government and media might say, people in Australia DO care! We need to act now to help these people in their time of need, these are circumstances that they are not at all at fault for or in any way in control of!


Please visit to find out how you can support me on this journey!



So, that was one issue I felt strongly about. But I wanted to do more! I thought I’d best not get ahead of myself, so I settled on two charities for my first ever crack at fundraising.


The second charity I chose is Variety – The Children’s Charity. I have supported variety by attending different events for years, but I really wanted to get my hands dirty this time.

Entering the Miss World Australia pageant has given me the most incredible opportunities to fundraise for Variety. Miss World is the largest and most prestigious international beauty pageant in the world, hosting 132 countries at one of the most exclusive events of the year. The esteemed organisation is known for raising over 1 billion dollars for children’s charities since it began, and I am so incredibly honoured to be a part of it.



Miss World aims to promote “Beauty with a Purpose” to encourage women to live a compassionate and humanitarian life. Variety Australia improves the lives of so many critically-ill, differently-abled and disadvantaged children right here in Australia every day. Not only do I want to make a difference globally and promote inclusivity and compassion to all – I really want to make a difference here on home soil too. Variety and Miss World have given me the chance to do just that!


There are so many incredible real-life personal stories form children and families Variety Australia has helped on the charities website that will warm your heart, please take a look at the link below, I’ve included a link to donate too if you wish!




I had my charities sorted, so I set a goal to raise $1000 for charity in a month.

I was so nervous asking people for money and I felt so vulnerable putting myself out there to potentially fail and not achieve anything. This whole experience really has changed my perspective on a lot of things and made me realise no matter how small of a grain of sand you feel you are on this weird planet – you can make a difference if you really want to!


Two weeks have passed since I set this $1000 goal… and WE HAVE DONE IT! In HALF the time! One thousand freakin’ dollars raised for charity!


I can’t begin to explain the gratitude in my heart today. This may sound a little morbid, but I set this goal to see if “little old me trying to change the world” was a hopeless effort. I tend to be quite a cynical person, I look at our government and I feel SO disheartened. But this has given be that flicker I hope to shoot for the moon with my fundraising and activism efforts -  and I owe so many thanks to all of you who have supported me along the way!


My next confirmed project for Variety is a pre-loved designer clothing sale! I will be holding a fashion sale of practically new, gorgeous high-end pieces (new with tags or once worn) which I will be selling for amazingly cheap prices – with all proceeds going to charity. So, you can pick up some gorgeous unique pieces for super cheap, knowing all proceeds go to helping Aussie kids in need! You’ll also be supporting a sustainable fashion industry by choosing to forgo “fast fashion” and purchasing quality recycled items! I have a lot of gorgeous items myself which I will be giving up for charity, but I am looking for ALL sizes and styles to make this event as inclusive as possible. So, if you have items you no longer need or wear – please contact me asap so we can make this “luxe-for-less” charity event a reality!

 Please contact me if you have any clothing to donate so I can start organising the sale!

Please contact me if you have any clothing to donate so I can start organising the sale!


I also have HUGE event coming up to raise money for a cause extremely close to my heart – mental health. I will be making a formal announcement on 88.9 radio at 10.30am this Thursday the 24th of May as to what this event will be. But what I can say is its going to be MASSIVE! We are currently on the lookout for sponsors for this event too – we are after donations of items and services to auction off, if you would like to know more or think you may be able to help – please get into contact with me ASAP!


A special thanks to these lovely souls who have donated, $1 or $100 -  you gave what you could and that means more than anything, kindness isn’t a contest!

Kiera, Bella, Leanda, Grace, Bianca, Jane, Marie, Christy on behalf of Retorque, Suz, Samantha, Mitch, Brittany, Kayleigh, Trista, Leigh, Kyle, Jenny, Krystal and Monika.

An even special-er thanks to Marie and Leanda who donated to BOTH of my fundraisers for my 1000 project! Such incredibly generous women!


(Just as a side note, out of the 20 people that contributed – only 3 of those were men! To put that in perspective on a larger scale, 85% of donations came from women and only 15% from men! I’m not sure why this is but it really saddens me! I hope to get more men involved in my future charity events.)


Much love,

(and a loving reminder to sprinkle compassion and generosity everywhere you go, I’m looking at you – boys!)

Tyler xxx